Actress Jada Pinkett Smith and her daughter Willow Smith,8, are featured this month in Cookie magazine. Among interview topics of her career,her marriage to actor Will Smith, are Jada’s “Golden Rules of Parenting”:

1. Eat as a family. “There’s flexibility about when they eat breakfast and lunch, but dinner together is sacred.”

2. Enlist help. “I’m lucky to have a lot of people in my world who help me,” says Pinkett Smith. That includes her mother: “She travels with me all the time, and when I travel and the kids aren’t with me, she stays with them.”

3. Drink water. “I tell them, ‘You have three bottles of water a day, then drink what you want,'” she explains. “I’m always like, ‘Listen, we’ve got to keep our bodies strong—we got too much stuff to do!'”

4. Respect their boundaries. Staying out of kids’ space can teach them to be responsible for their own decisions and mistakes, she says: “Is it their room, or are they borrowing the space while they’re living in your house? If it’s theirs, then they should be able to do whatever they want with it. If it’s their clothes, they have the right to do whatever they want with those clothes. We have to give them some freedom to be who they are.”

5. Choose your battles. For instance, she doesn’t prescribe what the kids are going to wear—even for the paparazzi. “Who is it going to hurt, really, if she has orange balloon pants on the red carpet?” she says. “I try to stay outside my ego and what I want and to respect them as I expect them to respect me.”
6. Expose and educate. “We go to church as a family on Sunday, but we study world religion during the week as well. We read excerpts from the Bible, from Hindu texts, Kabbalah, Judaism….”
{Thanks Dee}


~ by blackcelebritykids on October 22, 2008.


  1. Respect their boundaries. Staying out of kids’ space can teach them to be responsible for their own decisions and mistakes, she says: “Is it their room, or are they borrowing the space while they’re living in your house? If it’s theirs, then they should be able to do whatever they want with it. If it’s their clothes, they have the right to do whatever they want with those clothes. We have to give them some freedom to be who they are.”

    I can tel that statement is true from the bicycle shot of Willow.

  2. The part about religion is troubling, it makes you wonder if they
    aren’t scientologists, although they have vehemently denied it. Why confuse her childere? There is only ONE LORD (JESUS CHRIST), ONE FAITH (CHRISTIAN) AND ONE BAPTISM (BAPTISM INTO JESUS CHRIST) AND ONE BLUEPRINT TO FOLLOW (THE BIBLE).


  3. Willow is going to be tall.She has such long limbs

  4. in the closet lesbian. swinger. fraud.

  5. In Charlotte’s reply she said all negative things. Was that really necessary. We as black people should be honored and glad to see a family like the Smiths that show a happy bondage. Regardless of what people say about her she is still a mother and wife first. and all her interviews show that.

  6. This is a better look for Willow vs the wild hair. Wow, she is gonna be taller than her mom. Looks like Jada too.

  7. CARLA, sometimes knowing and educating yourself about other religions/beliefs makes you appreciate others and where they’re coming from as well as appreciate and grow to learn and love your own religion even more. We mustn’t be ignorant to other beliefs in the world, that breeds hatred and deception. Listening and learning will open your mind to love others that are different than yourself, not judge, hate or turn away from them.

  8. thank you for posting this BCK because we as black people are to involved with what people will think??? What is wrong with what Willow is wearing? Is it because it’s colorful… not black enough??? She looks like a happy child who is spending time with her mom riding a bike. She doesn’t look like she could care less if anyone likes her gear or not. As for her hair, it ooks better because it’s fake??? I hope all of you that like to comment on natural black hair don’t have any children because you are the reason why so many black people are afraid to be natural. Learn to love yourselves, your real selves and not the person you think everyone will love. That child is adorable inside and out because she has a good foundation. I didn’t like Jada because I thought she was to bossy but because of this article and her parenting style… I think she is one in a million!

  9. I agree with Blssed. We need to educate ourselves and our children so that we can understand and respected other peoples beliefs. Because this little boy told my daughter she wasn’t going to heaven because she didn’t belong to the church he goes to.

  10. At the end of the day, everyone has their own way of how they raise their children. It’s working for her and Will so far. I love reading positive interviews such as this one about African American families. I like the fact that they allow their children to express themselves and expose them to the world.

  11. Blssd & M’sgirl, that doesn’t change what Carla is saying, in other words we aren’t called to embrace other people’s religion, telling the truth to a person shows that you love them rather the person agrees with what you are saying or not.

    To embrace or pose as one embracing lies showes hate towards you. How can I know your belief will send you to hell and claim to love you? I can tell you the truth, still love you if you don’t believe me yet pray for you and stand firm on what I believe, not because I believe it but because God says it to be true.

    Now if you want to speak on embracing certain things within a religion that doesn’t go against God (ie the bible speaks on eating foods sacrificed to idols, stating it is not a sin to do so if the believer can do so with a good consious sorry spelling) than surely that can be done. But when it comes down to the straight up black and white of it, no other way to God except through Jesus Christ.

    He is the distinguishing factor of all other religions put that fact to the side and you don’t have true Christianity, you do not have eternal life and your religion is a fraud. Might as well do you because there is no hope in your belief.

  12. I agree Jay,

    I like to read positive stories about Black families, but you know the sad thing is where there is one positive story, there is 100 negative stories to follow, Jada & Will keep doing you.

  13. The Smith family is beautiful and are wonderful role model.Whatever it is you are doing…you are doing it right.And to the negative people….jealousy is a terrible waste of time……

  14. @ Tamara
    I’m not one to judge natural beauty of our people. Stating my opinion about the hair was never meant as criticism. Perhaps the term ‘natural’ suits better than ‘wild’. I loved the natural look better on their youngest son. A little conformity is not all bad and doesn’t necessarily impede self expression of black people.

  15. db

    “Thank you!” Again, there is ONE LORD, ONE FAITH and ONE BAPTISM.
    For me to state anything else is BLASPHEMY ,against the Holy Spirit, and I do not want to lose my salvation. Ladies, I am sharing Christ out of love and doing my best to dispell the myths according to the word of GOD. Blssd, we are not called to embrace anything or any one only JESUS CHRIST. Be careful, the adversary will use your words to lead others astray. Allah, Buddha, Mohammad, Mary and any other false gods were all created by OUR LORD AND SAVIOR, who robed himself in flesh (Jesus Christ) and came to earth to redeem mankind back to himself. JAMES 4:17 STATES: Therefore to him that knoweth to do good and doeth it not, to him it is sin. I have been enlightened through the Holy Spirit and I know better, for me to share (in love) anything else would be sin on my part. Sin, is separation from Jesus Christ and I must make HEAVEN my home.


  16. everybody is entitled to their own religion and own faith, who are we to judge???? As long as you are not harming anyone, good for you!!!

  17. All jada said is tha she reads other relgion books wtf carla and db. whats the matter with reading..the bible is book too..and yes I beleieve in the lord..but I’m smart enough to know the bible is a book..it only means something if you are living the kind of life the bible tells you to live..One thing i do respect about other relgions is that at least those people try to live what they believe..while christains talk and do nothing..but collect money …

  18. @YeahSo

    Don’t you think that is a little harsh, “while Christians talk and do nothing..but collect money”…passing personal judgement on the ENTIRE Christian faith…

    C’mon, you have to have a little more intellect than that.

  19. I think Will & Jada are good role models and the pics of Jada and her Daughter are really cute.

    Jada is beautiful and down to earth and you gotta love that.

  20. so now y’all huffing and puffing? didn’t you notice that little girl’s smile? it’s priceless, happy and full of all the things a childhood should be.
    One thing is for sure, the Smiths’ are raising their children in the best way that they can and i can’t fault them for trying!

  21. Wow. so now we’re gonna sit around and decide how people (total strangers mind you) should be raising their children? If Will and Jada choose to raise their kids as Christians but to educate them in other religions so that they grow up to be respectful and tolerant human beings it’s their right to do so as parents and I say more power to them.

    People always have to find something, even when there is nothing. I think it’s a cool interview with some gorgeous mother/ daughter pictures, my personal favorites are of them together on the trampoline and sharing a laugh while Willow reads a book. (can be seen at the magazine site) you can see their joy in the pictures, thanks BCK for posting. 🙂

  22. She does sound like a Scientologist. These statements seem forced, like she’s about to come out with a parenting book or something. 😦

  23. And SO WHAT if Jada and family are Scientologists, Buddhists, Muslims, Jewish or Hindu for that matter??!! The creator will judge us as individuals, and according to what beliefs we profess. Judgemental Black folks, check out your own homes and communities and the chaos that probably resides there before you throw those HYPOCRITICAL stones.

  24. I absolutely love the Smith family (from what I seen & read, of course) and I love this interview. I am not sure how she sounds live a Scientologist but whatever, we are all entitled to our opinions. I see nothing wrong with exposing your children to different cultures, different religions, etc. But anyway I think they both look great!


  26. brenda, are you on crack? willow is beautiful

  27. don’t you think that willow smith looks alot like ming lee simmons the’re both 8 they both have the same coloured eyes they have both the same teeth and face its just so wierd cuz when i saw it i was lyk, what is ming lee simmons doing with jada pinketh smith?

  28. i think Willow Smith is gorgeous and the religion that she explains is the Bahai Faith

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